There is a deep divide within all men’s minds, between primal instinct and one of civil obedience to man’s recognized laws. All men are blindly loyal to something; it is your god. It is your devotion and the center of your worship. It is your priority to which nothing else stands besides equally or rises above.
Most of you do not even realize where your center of importance lies. We all have the same answers. My wife. My children. My God. My family. That list looks good, but be honest with yourself. How true is it?
The truth is, your list isn’t what you think it is. It looks more like my job, my Netflix shows, my video games, etc. Where do you spend most of your time? That is your answer.
Most people have issues with their priorities, I think. How many of you get annoyed when your 5-year-old is demanding your attention, but you are trying to mess around on social media or trying to watch your show?
Do you realize that you just prioritized something over your child? What about your wives or girlfriends? If something is going on that they want to do with you at the same time that your favorite sports team is playing, will you miss the game? Will you skip this hunting trip and hang out with your family?
What am I implying? That you can not have time for yourself? Yes, I am. I have written before about the sacrifices that a man must make when he becomes a husband or a father.
When that moment comes that you decide to give up the single life and take a wife, your life completely changes. There is no longer just you. It is no longer about your wants and desires but the shared wants and desires of you and your spouse.
When you take it upon yourself to bring children into the world, you leave behind any resemblance to the life you want to have. Meeting the guys for drinks every Friday night is gone. Taking random road trips with your boy is out the window. Flirting with the cute girl at the other end of the bar is done.
From the moment you put a ring on a woman’s finger, your mission in life is to protect her, provide for her, lead her, and sacrifice yourself for her.
I understand this article is not going to go over very well with very many people. I understand that you are the product of a selfish world and raised to think about yourself and what is best for only you. I know every authority in your life until this point told you to follow your heart and make your dreams come true.
This mindset is ungodly and unbiblical, and it has no place in a Christian man’s life. The Bible says that we are to love our wives as much as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it.
Men, we are the model of Christ. You have to take a look at the life of Christ throughout his ministry and the building of his church. Jesus went 40 days in the desert fasting and giving himself over in prayer. He went without to better himself and prepare himself to lead a new church.
Jesus was homeless, with a priority set towards helping other people. He healed the sick and fed the hungry. Jesus shamelessly dedicated his life to teaching and helping. In the end, he gave his life for his church.
Christ rose from the dead to minister and gives his final instructions before leaving so that the comforter, also known as The Holy Spirit, could come to the earth to nurture the church.
The Holy Spirit then came to the earth to comfort the church, provide love to the church, and help guide the church. You have to understand the roles of Christ, the Holy Spirit, and the church.
Have you ever noticed that church members call themselves the family of Christ or the family of God? It’s why believers call each other brother and sister, because we’re all one family in our faith, and because the church is a family. So the family is represented here as an image of the church.
If the man represents the image of Christ in the home, and the family represents the church, then can you guess which person represents the Holy Spirit? The wife. A wife and mother should be a person of love and comfort to her family.
Now that we have ironed out those details let us revisit the verse a man should love his wife, as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it.
If a man is to imitate the vision of Christ and represents Christ as the authority of the family, then the man must also live his life accordingly in a manner that mirrors the life of Christ, whose image we are a mirror of here on earth.
There is nothing wrong with a man being able to do something that he enjoys: a video game, a little fishing, A TV show. The problem happens when anything else becomes more important than his wife or family.
The problem occurs when a man brushes aside his God-given and commanded duties for self-gratification. I submit to you that you, as well as I, need to take a long look at our lives and determine whether or not we are living by the example that Christ gave us to live by, and we need to make sure that our priorities are where they need to be.
Ephesians 5: 22-28
22 Wives, be willing to serve your husbands the same as the Lord. 23 A husband is the head of his wife, just as Christ is the head of the church. Christ is the Savior of the church, which is his body. 24 The church serves under Christ, so it is the same with you wives. You should be willing to serve your husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives the same as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. 26 He died to make the church holy. He used the telling of the Good News to make the church clean by washing it with water. 27 Christ died so that he could give the church to himself like a bride in all her beauty. He died so that the church could be holy and without fault, with no evil or sin or any other thing wrong in it.
28 And husbands should love their wives like that. They should love their wives as they love their own bodies. The man who loves his wife loves himself,
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