I have this one pipe, that every time I want to use it, I must give it extra attention. It wants to be scraped, reamed, mouthpiece must have a pipe cleaner run through it, just the whole 9 yards. If I do not do these things, I get nothing back out of the pipe, it is just a terrible smoke. So, after having this pipe for well over a year, I have gotten to the point where I am just tired of messing with it. I jokingly and affectionately call my pipes my friends. But this is one friend that now must go.
When dealing with this pipe today I had a friend of mine call me. I picked up the phone and said hello and the first words out of his mouth was I need your help Thursday. You know that is fine, there is nothing wrong with helping your friends, it is actually something we should all do as friends. This one friend, the only time I hear from him is when he needs something. So, I asked him for a favor a couple weeks ago, and the first words out of his mouth was I can do that, but I need your help over here with some fence panels first.
My son works for this mans stepdad, as his landscaping guy. He mows, he trims, he weeds, he has planted trees, he has laid sod, he just put out mulch. My son is a hard worker and most people that know him, know this and he gets hired quite often. So, working for my friend’s stepdad, he said that only had a half day’s work for my son. My son charges by the day or half day for anything that he does. So, my friend said that he would hire my son to work the other half of the day, it works pretty good right? So, at the end of that day my friend asks my son, so my dad paid you right? My son told him no, only for the half he worked for him. My son never got paid.
Sir after all of this, I have decided that my friend needs to go just like my pipe. You see, there comes a time in everyone’s life where they must start culling the herd of friends that they have acquired. The good ones stay, the leeches go, the negatives, the users, do absolutely nothing to build you and your life up. And let us face it, what we are trying to do is be respectable men, to build ourselves up for ourselves and for families our as well. Some of you are going to question why I did not step in for my son and make my friend pay him. But to know me and to know how apparent, I believe some lessons must be learned the hard way. My son would not stand up for himself and demand his money, and it is not my business, he will learn.
Today I decided that the little pipe must go and today I decided to let a man go that I want to call my friend. There is a lot of noise in our lives without having someone in there that adds more. There is a lot of needs placed on us as men, without someone outside pulling more out of us. There is a lot we can and should do for our friends, and there is a point in which we should not allow ourselves to be used. So, with a heavy heart, I say goodbye today to two old friends. Sometimes it is just for the best. Many of us put a lot of time and a lot of effort into improving ourselves, growing ourselves, and looking to the future of our families and our tribes. Sometimes we forget to look back and cut the excess weight off.
But then again, maybe I am more heartless than most. After all, I have been known to kill off my own family. I am a firm believer that the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb and I stand by it and how I live my life. When you make a friend out of me you make a friend for life, unless you make my life worse. So men, I encourage you take some time and think about what it is that’s holding you back from a goal, what is dragging you down and preventing you from doing something that you know needs to be done. If that thing happens to be an old friend, maybe it is time to reevaluate that friendship.
1 Corinthians 15:33
Don’t be fooled, bad friends will ruin good habits
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