If you’re reading this article on this site, I’m going to assume that you are of the mindset of self-improvement. You’re either living the life or are getting into it, trying to find that inner barbarian inside of you. With that said, I am going to talk to you like you have a direction to take.
There is no doubt that our idea of normalcy has been flipped on its head in recent weeks. I have been out of work and at home since March 13th and I have to tell you, I’m losing track of my days. I have also been suffering from a bit of depression lately. When you’ve been going to a job for 8 years, and bringing home a steady paycheck every two weeks, the sudden loss of that is a blow to your ego.
Pastor TD Jakes once told a story of his brother and sister in law riding on the motorcycle. His brother told him that his wife almost killed him because when he got into the turn, she didn’t lean with him. And you know that’s where we are today, in our relationships. When we are on the straight away with the sun shining and the wind in our hair, life is so very good. It’s in the turns of life that we are losing control. Our wives and girlfriends will find themselves riding the motorcycle alone because we fell off.
How many men are in turns right now? I’m currently going through a turn, and I dang near fell off yesterday. I let the weight of everything become so heavy that it was suffocating me. Back to that in a minute. How many men out there are standing proud and strong because that is what we are supposed to be doing? How many men are facing this alone despite all the resources that we have available for us? I’m a member of the Fraternity of Excellence and if you’re not in there, you should consider it. I have at my fingertips a large group of men, of brothers, with the set goal of improving ourselves and helping each other improve.
Did I reach out to any of them? No, and one of them is a licensed therapist. This is my failure and one I think many men fall victim to themselves. You see, we are wired, a lot from our raising, a lot from our own minds that we are supposed to be strong enough to handle what life throws at us. The reality is, we’re not always going to be. What happened to change my state of mind. A man by the name of Hunter Drew, many of you probably know him, randomly gave me an “atta boy” publicly on Twitter. I saw it and cried. I seriously broke down. I’ve been feeling like so much of a failure recently that to have someone recognize all the hard work I do, to acknowledge me in such a positive manner that it shook me to the core. I had a momentary mental break down as waves of stress just washed away from me because of this one man’s encouragement.
My point in all this is at this moment in time, when life is getting more and more stressful. As we are all tired of being cooped up, anxious of what’s next. Trying to maintain some sense of normalcy and make our living. Maybe give the next guy you see a pat on the back. It may mean more to him than you can possibly know. We are after all commanded in scripture to be an encouragement to each other.
Hebrews 10:24-25 “ And let us consider one another to provoke love and to do good works: Not forsaking the assembly of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much more, as ye see the day approaching.”
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