How To Be A Successful Family Leader

by Oct 7, 2020

Mans role in the family

The first institution that was attacked was the family. The first institution, then we must take back, is the family. It seems that no matter what we try to do or where we try to go, society has something against us. As men, we have no choice but to play along if we don’t want to rock the boat. But I believe the time for getting along has passed.

The roles of a man this week are all interconnected. To be a husband, to be a father, and to be a leader. The Bible is very clear on the duties that these roles hold.

The first job that God gave Adam was to be a gardener. The second job God gave Adam was to be a husband. You see, matrimony is a holy covenant between two people, a man and a woman, and God the creator.


No covenant with God is one to be taken lightly. God created us man and woman, and just as God put man over the creatures of the earth, God also placed man above woman.

Now, this sounds sexist and patriarchal by today’s standards. And while it is patriarchal, it is not sexist. God created men stronger and faster than a woman. But before you get too high and mighty, you must know that there is a reason for this.

God placed on a man the burden of provision. To seek out daily food, shelter, water, and clothing for his family. Men are to bring home everything his wife needs to survive. It is a man’s duty to place the welfare of his family above himself at all times.


The Bible says husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. You, husband, should be willing to lay down your life for the safety, protection, and provision of your wife.

Note that the Bible never says a wife should lay down her life for her husband. It simply is not her responsibility, granted I know many wives that have this mindset. And don’t think that just because we’re in modern times, that a threat does not exist against your wife.

There are many predators out there that would kidnap, rape, and murder our wives. You are the one that stands against the evil of this world, but you can’t do that when you or stuck selfishly chasing your own desires.

We’ve all heard the verse: Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Note that the verse directly before that says: for husbands and wives to submit themselves to each other.


Wives have many of their own responsibilities that did not pertain to the husband. One of which is to give birth. once mom has spit out the heir to your throne, dad mode begins.

You are there to provide love and educate your children. You are the rule setter and the rule enforcer. While mom is nurturing, it is your job to be the guiding light.

You will train your child, teach your child, and guide your child into their own adulthood. The role of a father is not to be taken lightly.

Not only is your wife now depending on you to provide, but your children are also relying on you. 

This past week’s article on strength and courage. In fatherhood lies the greatest journey that a man can never partake in. You play a significant role in how successful or screwed up your children will be.

Legacy & Leadership

You are not only carrying on the legacy that your father and grandfather built, but you are also extending that legacy to your own descendants.

Finally, this takes us to the most important role of them all—the ability to execute constructive leadership.

Without this ability, your wife will not follow, and your children will not honor. Without the ability to effectively lead your family, you ruin the work of a millennium of ancestors.

The Bible calls you the spiritual leader of your home. You, men, will answer to God on judgment day in response to the character and faithfulness of your family.

There is no choice that you get to make. It cannot be snuffed out by society. Your manliness, your masculinity, is ordained and commanded by God.

1 Kings 2:2-3

[2]I go the way of all the earth: be thou strong therefore, and shew thyself a man;

[3]And keep the charge of the LORD thy God, to walk in his ways, to keep his statutes, and his commandments, and his judgments, and his testimonies, as it is written in the law of Moses, that thou mayest prosper in all that thou doest, and whithersoever thou turnest thyself:


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