Chores something that I despised doing as a child. I fought more wars with my parents about doing chores than any other thing I can remember growing up. I wasted hours in conflicts over some of the smallest dumbest things imaginable. It was not just any one time growing up either, from when I was old enough to start doing stuff on my own until I moved out of the house.
Chores were the bane of my existence
Cleaning my room
Take out garbage
Mowing the yard
Watch my brothers (yes, a very detestable chore)
Every time I turned around, I was supposed to be doing something instead of having fun and playing. They were interfering with what I thought was necessary at the time. Why were my parents repeatedly after me for doing all these chores all the time?
Now, as a father looking back, they were teaching me life’s lessons of things I needed to know to make it on my own.
To be accountable to get tasks done that I was assigned. Responsibility carries over into every job you have had, from floor sweeper up to CEO of a company. You not only a responsibility to who you work for, but you also have a responsibility to yourself to be the best at what you do. Even when self-employed, I would say your responsibility is even greater.
When you are out on your own, and it is just you, this makes less responsibility than when you have a family that is counting on you. However, it is not less important, and you should be striving to be your best. Preparing for the day, you do have a family or those that will be counting on you, systems in place to counter challenges that you will be facing.
Keeping organized and the things around you clean make for a better, more productive work environment for yourself and those around you. Not to mention lowers the chance of getting sick just from the filth that can accumulate.
When you sit down to work are your thoughts scattered? Is your work area well organized or do you have stuff laying around? This plays into your ability to work. You want your kids to sit down and get homework or other projects done. I would ask what environment do they have to thrive in?
Do you want your house to look like a page out of a magazine? Well if you do then you have to be willing to do this yourself if you stand a chance of having your children follow suit.
When given a task, you should accomplish it without direct oversight from another to get it done. Completing a task in a timely manner leads to building trust in getting work done and that you will be there when needed.
Trust is often given out freely by many and then when broken it can be devastating. When is trust is earned, it lends strength to the trustworthiness of a man. For it has been tested and not found to be wanting.
Everything in moderation makes a more well-rounded individual. All work and no play make a person burned out and hating life. All play and no work leads to loss of purpose in life and relying on the handouts of others.
This is a key word in my house, my son knows it well. We talk about it constantly in everything we do. For with moderation we can easily control our lives. Keeping things simple and not over indulging we can enjoy small treats, save up for grand experiences. Be able to enjoy different areas of what life has to offer us.
When you put all the above together, you become a man who has confidence in one’s ability to overcome any obstacle put in your way.
As a father, I need to teach my son these fundamental core values. When thinking about this, even when he was relatively young, I did not want to fight with him over chores as I had with my parents.
Chores are something I fought over, and chores are something I see other parents clash with their children over. People at work grumbling over the chores they must do. Bosses grumbling over unaccomplished chores.
There and then I decided we would not have chores in my house.
Instead, I am teaching my son how to do things around the house and in the yard. I do not call them chores; instead, he has grown up learning that it is the stuff that needs to be done. A balance between work and play.
When something is just a part of life, there is nothing to fight over.
What do you fight about with your Children?
Are you following in your father’s footsteps getting after your children for things that don’t matter?
I challenge you to start looking at all the arguments you have with your sons and daughters. Write them down if needed to look at what causes these confrontations. Then start to work on not having them anymore.
It can be as simple as eliminating the word chore from your vocabulary. Taking a simple word out that often has a negative vibe can change one’s whole outlook.
You need to look inside yourself. What are you doing? For you see children are mimics, and they are very good at mimicking. Who do they emulate? YOU, plain and simple, the chance is very high; the very thing that you are fighting over them with is something that you do yourself.
The old do as I say, not as I do. That is bull shit. There are going to mimic what they see and hear you do, and if you cant fix the problem in yourself, how do you expect to fix it in them.
Written by Nathan
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