Forced gratitude is disgusting.
Recognizing the individuals who have helped you along the way because there is an expectation to do so defeats the entire purpose of appreciation. Those who stand shoulder to shoulder with you during the storms do not deserve a blanket “thanks” when the sun is shining and everyone is expecting generic remarks.
Yet this is how society is programmed, I get it I’ve been to Church, I’ve heard the group collective say, “It is right to give him thanks and praise…”;
Why is it right to place that obligation on another who does not find it necessary to do so on their own and according to their individual code?
Forced gratitude is mental servitude, you are not sharing a moment of recognition to another out of genuine desire but rather out of societal pressure. On this Thanksgiving I say we take thanks. We take this opportunity to reach out to those who have helped us along the way, we take the opportunity to shine light on men who do work in the shadows, we take a minute to reflect on those shoulders it is that we are standing on.
Free men do not fall into the trap of:
- How’s your day?
- It’s fine, how’s yours?
That is a lie and it comes from the script which mainstream culture is reading from.
Instead of neutered discourse, share genuine appreciation and insights; share the raw and real instead of the neutral and accepted.
I’m tired of general lists with the same 10 names shared on twitter; why not speak to the individual men in a direct message and say, “Thank you for taking the time out of your day to help me improve my message, adjust my approach to a challenge, or help me find value and purpose in my day to day life.” Why not make direct contact with those who’ve helped you actualize your greater potential.
This Thanksgiving TAKE THANKS.
Take the moment to direct some intentional time and energy towards the recognition of a man or woman who has given you value without any expectation of reciprocity. TAKE the moment to give without take; the moment to be a genuinely good human being who cares for his fellow person with no strings attached.
We are all so connected that we assume those we value know we care; why wouldn’t they? You’ve liked, retweeted, and shared their message and bought their products, right?
Unfortunately, none of that says, “thank you…”
We’re better than this and it’s past time we realized it. You need to tell your friends, allies, loved ones, and peers that you value the impact they’ve made in your life.
This Thanksgiving 2019 we take the opportunity to share genuine appreciation with those who’ve helped us help ourselves.