A few years ago, one of my favorite bands came into town. They were playing at a small venue in the downtown area of the nearby city. My best friend at the time had just been through a recent breakup and I thought bringing him to the concert would take his mind off the breaking up. After standing in the crowd for fifteen minutes, the opening band wasn’t on stage yet. My buddy couldn’t stand being out of the house, he bolted. This led to my first time at a concert alone. I took advantage of the situation, and I had an absolute blast! I ended up in the middle of multiple mosh-pits and over-all rocking my face off. That night I felt at home with a bunch of strangers. For that night these people were my temporary tribe.
Temporary tribe has been a concept that has been swirling around in my head. The term includes people that aren’t always going to be part of your life, but for that one night they are your closest friend. These people share a common interest with you and for that short time you are almost more connected to these people then the people you see every day.
This happens all the time in bars around the globe. You all are getting drunk in the same bar when suddenly you strike up a conversation and poof instant friendship. The whole night ends up being a blur of shit talking and many long moments of laughter. This has been a staple for my girlfriend and I when we travel. Instead of going to loud clubs where it’s just people smashed out of their mind to lame techno music we opt out for the local saloons. Where we get the locals talking about what’s been going on around the town. These people will give you the best advice on where to go and what to avoid. Instead of being the random tourist you’re welcomed into their local tribe for the night.
These temporary tribes make or break all local gatherings of special interests. As a collective if they are uptight, conformist, introverts the event with be dull and boring. There will be no reason to remember that night. No one wants to be at an event that’s not eventful. Be the people that are willing to help one another without hardly knowing anyone, makes any event yours and own it, it’ll be just that much better.
These temporary tribes come together for things that are similar within our preferences. Even though we may not become long standing friends that get together every day that doesn’t mean that these people don’t have an impact on your life as you do theirs. Next time you’re at a concert, camping or even the family reunion, do what you can to make the most out of that day. Give the people the time of their lives and give them a reason to loosen up a little.