Where Is The Spiritual Leader Of The Home

by Jun 17, 20202 comments

 When I was in my 20s after getting out of my first marriage, I went a little crazy. I got a job as an apprentice in a tattoo shop, learned how that world worked. I went on to be a pretty good tattoo artist. As a tattoo artist, there are certain codes and privileges that come with that job.

One of which is you could have pretty much any woman that you wanted. I cannot tell you how many women offered themselves to me in exchange for a free tattoo. Whether or not I accepted, it is a story for another time in place. I learn very quickly; there are some very low-value women in the world. I did with this knowledge what most single 20 something always drunk and always high men would do. I chased them.

Where my Actions correct? No. But at that point in my life, I did not care. And so, many men today do not care, and they feel like it’s nobody’s business, but in all actuality, all they’re doing is to lower their value down to the level of the women they chase. Men have a God commanded responsibility to women. We are to love our wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. We are the leaders of our homes, and we should be able to handle making money and paying the bills, we should be able to bring food home for our wives to cook.

I understand there are exceptions to this. Some men stay home, and women go to work. But there is one more aspect of men leading the home that there is no compromise on. The man is the spiritual leader of the home. 

What Happens When God Takes Control Of Your Life

What does this spiritual leader do? You are the pastor and preacher in your home. You are a counselor, your advisor, and you are judge, jury, and executioner. You are a teacher, and you are a supervisor; you are a provider. But most importantly, it is your job to teach your family About God. It is your job to teach your family about Christ. It is your job to lead your family in Bible study in prayer and worship.

It is not the pasture’s job on Sunday morning to save your kid’s soul; it is dad’s job. It is not the preacher’s job on Sunday morning to tell your son how to be a spiritual leader; it is your job to show your son. The problem we face today is we have absent fathers. No one knows how to be a spiritual leader or any kind of leader. The father figure, husbandman, never pull the Bible out and reads it out loud to his family. He has never asked his son what he believes. Never asked his daughter if she knows Jesus. He has never askes his wife if she would pray with him. 

There is a problem today in our church, and if you know me, you know how I rant about cleansing the pulpit. But the older I get, the more I’m convinced that the pulpit isn’t the only problem. The problem is a lack of genuine Christian masculinity. The church today does not teach masculinity because the men running the church no longer have masculinity. And the reason our homes are falling apart is a lack of masculinity, and the reason our society is falling apart is a lack of masculinity. But it all starts with the spiritual leader of the home. 

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 and these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shout talk of them when thou sitteth in thine house, and when thou walketh by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou rises up. 


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  1. Thank you for this, my wife and I noticed the soy boys are starting to be senior pastors and it’s not good. The church is becoming more and more feminist in it’s thinking and teaching. Not just feminized, but truly anti masculine choosing to burn the forest to save the trees. Even the men’s groups are not about men, it’s usually how to be more sensitive. Because only sensitive men are welcome in church now. I was born in 81, I remember when the schools were pushing this stuff, most of the teachers were strongly apposed seeing how it made weak boys. Now they are retired and it’s all about making boys and men weak. And punishing those who won’t conform and submit to the feminist dream for boys and men. We used to laugh at this and now it’s here, fully embraced by weak women and soy boys. Our new pastor is a soy boy, we will be finding a new church home.

    • Thanks for the comment. I’m an ordained preacher, and what I see around me sickens me. I’ve joked many times over the years about creating a whole new denomination, getting back to solid biblical foundations, foundations that include developing Godly masculinity and femininity, a church that teaches the values of a strong home. Some of my friends are encouraging me now to actually do it. I cant say that I’ve ever considered going beyond preaching to pastoring, but something does definitely need to change. I appreciate the feedback, stay tuned because I will be discussing this topic more.

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