Failure Is What Happens When Fathers Are Neglectful

by Jun 24, 2020

This week is an exciting week for me. Not only is today the day I am writing this, Father’s Day, but Wednesday is my birthday.

It is the time of year when I realize how blessed I am by the family that God gave me. I was told last night that this father’s day, I must do nothing. I get to sit back and relax, spend my day; however, I choose to spend it. I will not be doing yard work today or cleaning anything or cooking anything, but today I get to enjoy being celebrated by my family.

This day is something that far too many men never get to experience. Just as so much emphasis is placed on Mother’s Day at my home, where my wife gets to have her day, and she gets to be appreciated, I have the privilege of having my day as well. This is so far beyond normal in our society today that any positivity is ever on fatherhood or masculinity in general.

The problem from this comes from a failure in leadership that comes from many generations before mine. As a society, we have grown soft and weak, and we have placed the value of men far below the value of women, children, or anything else.

I see my tribe, my group of men and women that I associate with, railing against this, but the truth of the matter is we may make up 10 to 15% of the population. It is a growing problem, an ugly truth that must be faced to rebuild any resemblance of the greatness we once were.

Fathers today are taken advantage of and belittled. I have seen trending on twitter this morning #banfathersday, and I am appalled by this. This stems from low-value women making piss poor choices and procreating with low valued men. These women are angry that they are single mothers, And I, for one, am angry that they are single mothers.

This means that a man somewhere failed in his role and masculinity. This means that a man somewhere failed in his role as a leader. Rather it is the missing father or the father of the missing father, someone somewhere failed. And I know your next question, what if the woman is crazy and it is her fault, I still say that a man failed somewhere. Rather it was her father or her fathers’ father.

Many of you know me that I place the burden of society on the backs of men. We men created this society, we lead this society, and we give strength to this society. So, when we fail at what it is that we do, well, look around. Believe it or not, this is not the point that I wanted to make today in this article. The point I wanted to make is that I have it good.

Today is my day, and come Wednesday, it will be my day once again. I have a family that holds me up with such value that they desire to let me have my day. Men, fathers, I want you to have your day as well. I want you to have a family that holds you in such high regard that they want to honor you when your day comes around. But men, let us start with you.

It starts with your leadership. It starts with your ability to teach, and it starts with your ability to love and show compassion. You are the leader of your home. Every man is the leader of his home. Your leadership determines your value. The children that come out of your home and go into the world our direct representation of your value.

I hear people screaming about liberal indoctrination’s in college campuses, but you know what, I know many people whose kids have gone off to these liberal indoctrination camps and came out the other side clinging to old school values in a way never experienced before. You father, have the ability to set your child down the path in such a way that they will uphold the values and standards that you set for them and will pass them along to their children as well.

This is where we have failed, I personally know 20 something young men online, and in real life, they have no damn clue which way they are heading. They are clinging desperately to some hope that they might have a way into the world. An entire market has been created of teachers and guru’ that sell what these young men are after. And to be clear, I am not mad at this market because someone needs to teach these young men which way to go in life, and if their fathers will not do it, then someone else’s father will.

So, men I wish you all a happy life, and fathers, I hope you had a wonderful Father’s Day. I hope that it was truly your day that your family honored you. And if you are not given the honor, perhaps you lack honor, and that is something you can fix.

Six years ago, next week, my daughter graced my world with her presence. Six years ago, next week, I became an entirely different person. At that moment, nothing in this physical world matters to me as much as being a father. And today, June 21st, 2020, Father’s Day, nothing in this physical world matters more to me than being a father. When The day comes that you become a parent, you will always be a parent, no matter how old that child gets, no matter where that child goes, you are their father.

1 Peter 3: 7

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being errors together of the grace of life; That your prayers be not hindered.

Proverbs 22: 6

train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.


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