Today was very long. Not really hard, but time-consuming and mentally draining. Now it is time for me to write an article with no gas in the tank. Do I want to? Nope. Do I care that I don’t want to? Nope.
You see, a habit worth building is not giving a crap about what you want to do. Whenever you are developing a new habit you create paths of myelin, this creates a short cut in your decision-making process to where you do not have to think about it consciously. This is also why habits are so hard to break. In fact, if you change a habit, the old path is still waiting there dormant. This is why it is so important to pick your habits on purpose.
That whole “as long as it makes you happy” B.S. is just that. B.S.
We all do stuff we don’t want to do all the time. You wake up to an alarm clock… An alarm clock! Someone invented something that ALL of mankind must fight against each morning. You go to work and plug away at your job. Not a single person asks if you want to be there.
When was the last time YOU asked someone if they wanted to do a task? I bet you haven’t unless it is a close family member or friend.
My point is… No one really cares. Think about it. Do you care if I wanted to write the article or that it is written and written well? Big Brandon Carter (YouTube) hates lifting and yet he is very muscular. Jose Rosado (Twitter) hates to read but reads to make sure his business is successful.
If you find yourself fighting the “I don’t feel like it” side of yourself, listen to that voice. You are literally the only person who cares as much as that voice because it is your voice. You don’t have to listen to it. Tell yourself that you understand and yes this does suck and no this doesn’t mean you get to get out of it.
Own your life, make solid steps to create the life you want to live instead of reacting to it.
If you see yourself giving in to your weaker self, go take a walk, lift weights, play with your kids or girl. Do something to break the negative feed loop and start over.
Can’t separate yourself from the situation? Next time bring something you like to help “ease the pain” like coffee. If you treat yourself like a tyrant, you will end up rebelling against yourself and then you lose both ways.
Love yourself, forgive yourself, but most important of all: you don’t have to listen to yourself.
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Pick up Roman McClay’s book Sanction and read it with me. Each week I will be reading a bit and writing about my thoughts. My thoughts will NOT be a summary of his work.