When you have everything you need, life becomes simpler. The trap that we fall into is thinking there is a lot more we need. When in reality it is wants that we are after. Distinguishing between the two I find can be challenging at the best of times. Often when questioning others on what they think they need; I find myself looking inside and wondering have I been caught in this trap also. I believe it becomes even harder when you have children, for then you think to yourself they need this to grow up to be well rounded. Specially if it was something lacking from your own childhood.
My father moved the family around quite a bit due to his profession. I went to several different schools. I have no real childhood friends that I still speak with. Let alone meet up with. Too this day I have two friends that have survived the test of time. One is my mentor and friend going on almost 26 years. Longer than many have been alive and another for 16 years. Others have come and gone along life’s path.
I recount this because I believe my son needs the stability that I missed out as child. He has been in two school system, the current one since the 3rd grade. As he is finishing up 8th grade this year, I gave strong consideration to moving. I think between the end of 8th grade going into freshmen year you can make a decent move. Many are new going into the freshmen year. Due to several reasons that move is not happening. Which long term may very well be for the best. I have given him what I believe is something I needed.
He has the chance to have childhood friends for life, he has known the same neighbors for years now and trust them. He is learning how to work inside a small community. He has many freedoms that others his age lack. He has a level of safety that many are missing in their lives. He gets to enjoy experiences and come home to a place of safety. Also, one he is learning to defend.
Deciphering between needs and wants for yourself, for your family, for others in your circle of friends, you must start off at the basics. Food and shelter, then safety and stability, to enjoyment of life. These basics are intertwined. With one comes the other. Which builds a strong foundation for life to add more to experience on top of. When building these other experiences is when we lose site of what is truly needed, what is important to our lives.
When life has gotten to you, find a quiet place with a pencil and note pad. Start dissecting your life. What are your stress points? Why are they stress points? Can you just eliminate them from your life? Yes awesome, No ok what do you need to do to make it go away. As you determine each and everything in your life start another page that shows wants and needs, to help you decide what is profoundly important. This mind dump onto paper will help you looks at your life more clearly. You will be able to tell if you have been caught in the trap of wants becoming needs. When really you already have what you need in your life.
Agnitio Veritas Macto
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