Saying your sorry is a sign of weakness. Plain and simple, it is overused, easily rolls off the tongue that most people don’t even realize that they are saying it. It has become a filler word, an expression that has lost its meaning. Do you even know what it means?
1: feeling sorrow, regret, or penitence
2: MOURNFUL, SAD
3: inspiring sorrow, pity, scorn, or ridicule: PITIFUL
99% of the time, no one uses for the definition above and or doesn’t mean it when they do use it.
You bump into someone – sorry – how is that sorrowful? Do you regret it? I think not.
You’re playing ball, doesn’t matter what kind, you throw the ball the other person doesn’t catch it – sorry – how is that your fault they missed? Are you sad that they did? Possible yet again, I think not.
You’re out playing ball with your son; a throw goes wild and hits the neighbor’s young little daughter in the leg. Your boy runs by pics up the ball, says sorry, and runs off. There is no meaning here. Sorry is used correctly, but with no substance to back up. Sorry is used so much that it’s on the tip of people’s tongue and suppose to make everything better.
Stop saying your sorry for every dam little thing.
When asking a question
When stating your beliefs
When you’re not sorry
When you changed your mind
Fix your weaknesses – have confidence in your self – don’t say you are sorry for being right.
When there is a problem, you should not complain about it unless you have a solution. I have a solution to the overuse of the word sorry, that is apologizing. Uttering the phrase – I apologize- it takes thought. It doesn’t just roll off the tongue. When you must stop and think about something, you add credence to your words.
Once you start fixing yourself, stopping yourself from saying sorry all the time, start telling others to stop using it—especially those close to you or that you talk to regularly. Not only are you helping them to become stronger, but you are also reinforcing not using sorry in your speech.
There is a time when using sorry is the correct phrasing. When a person loses a loved one, being sorrowful for their loss. Or the loss of a pet that has become part of the family. Both of these are moments that can be saddening.
I speak against the use of using the word sorry in my social circles. Yes, I am very well aware that it is a common word, and in some nations, it so ordinary people don’t even realize they are using it.
Words matter; that is something most of us with a lick of commonsense can agree on; strengthing up your vocabulary will lead to talking with a stronger sense of command and authority.
In every speech class that I have had throughout the years, one of the biggest things is removing umm & uhh, which are place holders you work to take out of your speech to make it stronger. Making you sound more confident.
One of the most annoying things in a conversation is when after stating some excellent thought, piece of information, or opinion, it is followed up by “I’m sorry.” Which then destroys whatever you were working convey because it does not sound like you believe in the words you uttered.
Another is when you start with what you are about to say with “I’m sorry” Right then and there, almost everyone takes no credence to the words coming next. You have stripped the confidence away. You are coming from the point of weakness. Even those with weak minds don’t like others that show weakness.
We talk about how merely going for a walk can activate your body’s transformation. Do you wish to be more confident in your interactions when you speak with others? Simply removing sorry from your vocabulary will start to change your mindset and give it strength.
Only a start
Removing or using sorry correctly is a start to strengthing your mind and the words you use. There are many other words out there they take away from what we are saying; the term “just” is another comes to mind. There are other words often; if you look at your writing, you will see them yourself, words that weaken what you have to say.
Here is a simple way of eliminating a word. Make a game out of it with another person. Have them call it out every time you use the word. I have done this with great success with my son, which worked out well because he then learned to eliminate or use the word correctly along with me.
Begin today, make a change; it may not be the word sorry; it may be another word or phrase you need to change.
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